Continuing a Conversation tips for men

A lot of guys sometimes have problems coming up with ways to continue and prolong their conversations. They can approach women just fine, but find themselves at a loss for words halfway through a conversation. If this includes you, then listen up!
So the first tip is that you need to give the girl a reason as to why you stopped her. You don’t want to make her feel like you’re taking a survey because this won’t build attraction. What a lot of guys like to do is to say that you just noticed them and that they looked interesting, and that you had to come over and say hi. That’s one way. Another way is to say that you saw them from across the street, and that they had an interesting aura about them. You could even say, “I was reading this article today and I thought it was pretty strange, so I had to ask you.”
The whole idea of you explaining why you’re asking her specifically, is to make her feel more comfortable about some stranger coming up to them. Basically to make it look as though its not completely random for you to walk up to her and start a conversation; to make it look more natural - to make it seem as though this question was on your mind and you absolutely had to stop her because she was the closest person to you when you felt the need to ask this question.
The second tip is that you should always have a story in your mind ready to tell because the worst thing is to run out of things to say. If you have a couple of quick, to the point stories that are funny or show something about you, then that’ll help the communication flow more. True stories work best; especially if you have some to tell that are interesting and intriguing.
So, the third tip is to ask leading questions. Don’t ask yes or no questions, because these usually lead to a halt in the conversation, and you won’t get a whole lot of flowing conversation from the girl with these. Leading questions will help to get more interaction from the girl. So for example you could ask, “How do you keep yourself busy, and I don’t want to hear it if its dirty.” Be sure and say that sort of thing with a smile, obviously, so that they know you’re joking. The point is to just get them talking more, and also to get them thinking more.
Now the first 3 minutes you’ll have with a girl you shouldn’t expect an equal interaction from the woman. Expect to be doing 90 percent of the talking and interacting in those first 3 minutes, but after those first few minutes you should expect more from them.
So if you’ve held the first 3 minutes of conversation and the girl starts bringing up random topics or directions of conversation that do you no good, then you’ll want to cut them off and change the topic as quickly as possible. After those first 3 minutes they should be interacting more, and asking you more and more questions instead of the other way around. They’ll also be more likely to lean in and start playing with their hair; indicating their interest in you.

Most Expensive Men’s Shoes

Rapiécés Reprisés While some will always consider hand made shoes the best and probably most expensive men’s shoes in the world, distinguished brands have come out with quite expensive ready made shoes. What is the most expensive men’s shoe?

Forbes published a year ago a list of most expensive shoes for men that were ready made and their list included names such as Salvatore Ferragamo, Prada, Edward Green, John Lobb, New & Lingwood, and Berluti. Topping the list were the distinctive Berluti shoes which fetch a mere $1,830 per pair.

Still when considering the cost of the more elaborate designs in women’s shoes, these expensive men’s shoes do not seem all that pricey. Maybe its that modern day men will just not accept shoes with jewels adorning them.

Why It Can Be a Good Thing When He Goes Cave-bound

Last week a smart, thoughtful woman left a comment on my post about Dating the Somewhat Disappearing Man. These are the guys I call “pingers” because they ping you (or contact you) just often enough to make sure you’re there when they need or want you. They keep you attached and interested, and often get in touch when it’s time for some sex. She asked such a good question, I want to share it with all of you. Here goes:

“Confused” asked: I’m wondering if an older man (20 yr difference) wanting a couple of weeks to think after two months of good times together is a really bad sign? Does this mean I’m being pinged or is he just scared? How should I handle this situation so that I’m respecting his needs and feelings without neglecting mine? Signed: Confused

My response: “Confused”: First, let me recognize you for being so thoughtful and “grownup” about this relationship challenge. You seem to be approaching it with a good balance of emotion and intelligence; also balance between his needs and those of your own. That’s so hard to do in a case like this; so good for you!

Now…to answer your question: This isn’t a case of pinging if you’ve been in a real relationship; which it sounds like you have. If you’ve had a couple good months – meaning he’s been kind, attentive, reliable, and tried to please you – then I say give the man some time. It’s not unusual for a man to back off a little after what John Gray calls “the honeymoon period” wears off. He’ll often crawl into his proverbial cave to reflect on the relationship and where he wants to go.

Here’s the thing: he may or may not “come back,” but either is good. If he does, great! That means you may be on your way to a lasting and fulfilling relationship with a man who gave serious consideration to his feelings for you and decided to pick you. If he doesn’t, then great! That means he knows he’s not right for you and he’s getting out early to avoid the inevitable scenario: he disappoints you, you try to change him, and then he makes you crazy and/or breaks your heart.

Let him know you understand, and that you’re glad he’s going to take time to reflect on the relationship. Let him know clearly that you hope he decides that you’re a good match, and decide on some time factor. (This shouldn’t go on too long.) Then, use this time to reflect yourself: has he been all you want a man to be? Is this really the man who can make you happy and who you can love; or rather is he Mr. Right Now.

The 12 Categories of Single Women

There's a brand-new book out called (deep breath) Seeking Happily Ever After: Navigating the Ups and Downs of Being Single Without Losing Your Mind (and Finding Lasting Love Along the Way). To write it, author Michelle Cove interviewed more than 100 women and talked to them about how relationships based on what they think they should want often leave them unhappy. She tried to determine what it was that they truly wanted — in the process, getting readers to think a little more deeply about what their dream relationship might really be like.
After interviewing so many women, Cove began to think that most of them fit into one of 12 categories, which she defines for us below.
The Soul-Mate Seeker: Someone who is doing everything she can to find The One.
The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.
The Organic: She prefers to leave things up to destiny and live her own life rather than hunting for men in any methodical or calculated way.
The Princess-in-Waiting: She is waiting to be rescued by a prince (who sure is taking his royal time).
The Late Bloomer: The rest of her life is on hold while she waits for her future husband to appear.
The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other — her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)
The Wedding Wisher: She suddenly finds herself fantasizing about marriage after a lifetime of not caring about it.
The Town Rebel: She no longer aspires to live the cookie-cutter lifestyle of everyone else in her community, though she once used to.
The Ritual Re-inventor: A woman who wants to get hitched but also feels very strongly about having an unconventional marriage (right down to the wedding ceremony).
The Someday-Mom: She would like to have babies someday, but wishes she didn't feel so much biological pressure to figure it out fast.
The Slow & Steady: A woman who hopes to marry when the time is right. Meanwhile, she does her best not to cave to the massive pressure she feels from friends, family, and society.
The Trailblazer: A woman who knows married life is not for her, so she's trying to break a new kind of path to happiness.
Which one of these are you? Which one am I? I'd love to say, "Oh, I'm The Organic — if it's going to happen, it'll happen." But as I think finding a good guy becomes a numbers game after a certain point, I do put some energy into looking for people — which might make me something of a Soul-Mate Seeker. At the same time, I'm Slow & Steady — I'm well past the age when most of my friends (and most women) get married, and I'm in no rush. (I'm not so sure I want kids, which makes it easier to stay calm.) I am fairly certain that if I do get married, I will be a Ritual Re-inventor — I'm not necessarily interested in conventional anything. My dude and I will do what feels right, conventions be damned! But I'd also say I am a real Free Spirit, and I fear a relationship will absolutely mean an unpleasant curtailment of my freedom. And weirdly enough, I think I used to be a Princess-in-Waiting as a cover for being a Commitment-Phobe — I kept saying to myself, "The problem is that I can't find the perfect man who will help me to stop being sad and make everything all right in the world." In reality, I think the real problem was that no man ever seemed perfect enough because I wasn't really all that interested in getting into a relationship — and risking all the potential emotional trauma that might come with it.